He has sacrificed parts of his career as well. Jack is right about the demographics. God knows the big picture. We feel good about our choices, but know it might not be the right path for everyone. I am not married yet, there is some consolation in that.
I've seen it happen all the time. As the patriarchal leader, it will be up to you to figure it out and to dispel her unrealistic fantasies. I think that if these two really care about each other that she should be told to take a moment and ask herself how she would feel if they break up over this and years later she finally researches her religion. I spent a lot of time on my knees and made several trips to the temple before I felt l could trust that what I knew I wanted to be promptings actually were. This makes me so sad. December 18, Please tell me you're not in NC, dagny. I am the bitch who doesn't understand anything.
I know residency is particularly bad, but what about when he finishes that. It is an act of faith. Don't do it girls, forget the "status" it doesn't mean jack.
I wouldn't swap roles with my husband any day, he definitly has it the hardest. Thanks - I searched but couldn't find it. And yet when retirement comes up in the conversation, its a definite "not while I have the skills "- 75 maybe. I'm pretty disturbed by the level of dismissiveness seen in many of the comments here. My parents met when my mom was in 8th grade and married when she was I think my sister married fastest and knew her husband at least 18 months, dating for at least half that. I tiptoed into my current relationship with a medical student dating two years, med school is almost overand one of the first things I brought up when he was pursuing me and he pursued me HARD was that I would not be the kind of person that would date a doctor. I had a business, 3 engineering degrees, numerous patents, and was working countless hours a week to try and keep a roof over our heads, make sure she was fed, the house was clean, bills were paid, etc. Or, if I'm at work, even though I'm constantly busy, even if I wasn't, I can't just pull my phone out and call--i'm at work. If he says he wants to keep things casual, head for the hills - he's the latter and he doesn't appreciate you. It's not impossible, just painful and unlikely.
