But what does it really mean to be a patriarch, to lead your tribe. Like you, I didn't want to stress him out by giving him some sort of ultimatum or demands. Whatever your leaders have said, consider their counsel, give it the weight it deserves, then counsel with your Heavenly Father about your own situation. But I also know that He loves us so much that He would never take away our ability to choose for ourselves. I'm not trying to be mean, just very clear. I think your response is Bang on. Notify me of new posts via email. That's the real issue. This is right for me and for us.
I completely agree with you. I don't think you necessarily need to cut ties with her. To me, the core question is, is this person inclined toward self transcendence are the inclined, desirous, self aware enough to be selfless. If I'm focused on something like reading a textbook, or working on some problem then I might still think of him vaguely but I'm not going to whip out my phone or go and see himI'm busy. I love my non-member husband of nearly 20 years.
You are a good person. However, my situation is very different. Wow, every word resonates.
A lot of advice I get from others is that you need to build up hobbies and activities of your own so that I am not just waiting for him to give attention and have time for me. I realize I rambled a bit and may not have answered all your questions; feel free to ask anything else you want to know. I believe when you die, you die, and you live on in memories and hearts. Sorry man, but if I knew what I know now I would have cut my losses. Your not alone I married a women ob 20 years ago three kids 19,15,12 Also lost my job as a homebuilder my thoughts are with you. This woman has already given two full years fully devoted to the institution without question. I don't know if I can do it or if I want to. In the endвthe very endвGod loves my husband even more than I love him.
