I have only been living with him for a month. You;ll get the answer you needвprayers and blessings for you both. She went ahead a married a non member. I also expected that my spouse would be temple worthy and that I would get married in the temple, which was not the case. After about 3 months of his occasional interjecting of facts See that 14 year old girl. It takes a special person to be a doctor's spouse. As a man who married a non-Mormon woman, my story has a slightly different view point, but it comes down to essentially the same principles. I cried when I showed the end of a rescue reenactment in my class last week. That is the shit storm on the road ahead of you. You are a good person and she can see that.
About ten years ago, I realized I needed to quit qualifying my excellent husband who is a better man than many Mormon men I knowI realized I needed to raise my kids to think of him as completely equal to the men they knew at church. Jack is right about the demographics. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Mormon chicks have way damaged views on human intimacy. But that was also a possibility if he had married a non-mormon. I would probably suggest that you cut your losses now. A lot will fall into the shoulder of the other partner who is not a doctor. It is tempting for Mormon girls to become lazy because they have such a high standard compared to typical girls. Unless you have some super amazing other dating prospect there isn't a huge reason to cut this relationship off now.
I'm so sick of waiting around every night and weekend to see if he will have a minute for me. And if you can make it to the Tree of Life and still be with your partner, guess what. I made the decision not to have those things when I married a non-member. It broke my shelf, we left as an entire family, and our marriage is better than ever. Not one little bit. I am a 47 yr old Mom of a 4 yr old child with special needs who is completely alone to care for my child a good part of the time. In areas with lots of single Mormons of dating and marriageable age, the Church has established singles wards.
I remember attending numerous priesthood meetings by myself and wishing dad were next to me. I married someone that wasn't of my faith and it worked great. If you really care and think this is the lifestyle you wanted then go ahead.